Divorce and its effects on children

The standard wording trotted out by advisers and CAFCASS officers is “Do not forget that you are still parents, even though you are getting divorced’.  Sounds good.  The truth is quite different.

Femai http://www.dailymail.co.uk/home/index.html    reminds us divorce always harms children.  Children want things to go back to the way they were.  Arrangements can be put in place which appear attractive even generous, and children loved being spoilt, but that is not what they really want.

They want Mummy and Daddy to get back together again.  It is against that background that all solutions must be faced.  Acrimony, violence and shouting is never forgotten, and often ends up with poor school performance, bed wetting and all sorts of problems from biting nails to shyness.

Many judges do not allow sleepovers with dad where the children are under four.  There is no legal basis for this and it remains an outrage.  Families Need Fathers, with whom we work closely, have many sad cases, but this is one practical restriction imposed on good fathers who can demonstrate that, perhaps with the help of a relative, they can also change nappies, get the children to bed on time etc.

Somewhere around 45% of those currently marrying or entering civil partnerships will split up, the vast majority having children.  What possible justification can there be for saying that whereas the mother is the main carer, the father can see the children perhaps every other weekend which is a typical regime, they cannot sleepover.

We hope that a father will shortly take this problem by the throat and take it to the Supreme Court to get the law clarified and hopefully changed.

One thing is certain.  In a divorce dispute especially when children are involved an experienced expert family lawyer is essential.  Try https://hyltonpotts.com/ .

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